Friday, March 2, 2012

Something I found over at Todd and Suzy's

Thursday Knight at the Round Table over at Todd and Suzy's, and today's topic was particularly thought provoking to me. So much so, in fact, that I fully intended to comment on it. Until my brain and keyboard spewed up the following, that is....

*The topic is rique humour and spanking*

Yeah, um. Making fun of serious spanking issues.... TOTALLY agree you have to know your audience. Cause 'keep that up and you'll get a beating' or similar are POPULAR parental phrases... and we never know if they're kidding or not. My mother especially loved to use them, and other similar threats, and then NEVER follow through. Either that, or RANDOMLY follow through... which left me paranoid. Paranoid, and with little sense of humour... which mother got mad about. "can't you take a joke, you (cant remember what she called me, and don't want to make unfair accusations)?" she once asked, after making a joke that I was going to get a beating for bad grades... after what I'd thought was a pretty good end of year report. So,... er, no. Not when I can't tell if you're joking or not, I can't.

Almost got raped once due to joking about serious stuff... well, a guy tried to force himself on me, anyway. I kept saying 'no,' and he finally stopped trying to convince me that it would be fun and i'd enjoy it and stuff.... and it all started cause he made a joke about spanking and I grumbled about hating empty threats. *I was 19 and gullible and stupid at the time, but i'm not sure if that's an excuse) My friends' dads and I had a fairly similar dynamic, only THEY never foced themselves on me cause of it, so I genuinely thought it would be OK to do it with anyone who made that kind of dumb joke, so long as it wasn't my mother. SHE forced herself on me enough as it was.... yeah, I mentioned I'm screwed up tonight. Just ignore that last sentence, it's not important..

Uh, yeah. Joking about safewords... well, let's just say that safewords shouldn't just be for adults. I know it's not a good idea to let a kid who's being really impossible believe it takes one or two apologies and a few fake tears... (and make sure those tears definitely ARE faked before you start throwing about accusations, or you'll train your emotionally fragile child completely OUT of crying, to the point where they believe their medication doesn't work because they can't stop crying for no reason, rather than accepting that crying a bit over a sad story or movie, (or serious personal life issues) is normal... uh, yeah. persoanl experience. sorry for all the ellipses, I don't NORMALLY believe in using that many)... but a kid whos looking at you with terror in their eyes, begging for mercy, and not just trying to swim off your lap, but actually trying to crawl down the side of the bed, so they manage to trap themselves between the bed and the wall... well, you might want to let them safeword, rather than keeping on hitting them. Otherwise, you'll end up hitting their sides and front and shoulders, rather than natures supposedly intended target... again, personatl experience.

dammit, I'm messed up tonight. Must go seek something useful on eBay to cheer self up. Won the cutest little green and blue gingham romper today. Am currently watching a mug. Have been told will be spanked if buy more stuff... oddly enough by both housemates, godmother and psychiatrist.... well, not so much the third. I'm pretty sure he thinks I should be, though, from how sternly he keeps telling me to stop buying stuff on eBay.

Am better able to make jokes about spanking stuff these days... or at least to recognise them. Also know not to try and call anyone's bluff on a spanking joke, cause they might take it as an invite to take more than I could, or would, possibly offer.

uh, yeah. am closing this post, before it gets too depressing... or too weird.

Hugs, Terri

Edit, several months later: I won the mug! The listing, for Heaven knows what reason, BOASTED that the mug, which happens to be a collectors' item, (Well, I guess it is now, since it was memorabillia from a band's tour in 1993!) had NEVER been used. It's a MUG, folks, not a china doll! Anyhow, I had it for one week, and it had been used six times. Then I won a collectors' teaspoon to go with the mug. Seriously, from the same tour and everything. I was so pleased!